read these tips on how anda can ruin a tanggal so anda can avoid ruining one in the future.
1)DO NOT OVER ANALYZE THE RELATIONSHIP
most guys freak when they hear the word relationship in the early days of dating. they think "oh no why did she have to go spoil things oleh bringing this up?!"They also often think that when a girl wants to talk about a relationship, she really means she wants to pick him apart, expose all his flaws, and make him feel like a toad. If anda really feel anda need to talk about the relationship, try a softer approach. Avoid issuing an order like, "We need to talk about us," which most guys find terrifying. Instead, try a lebih specific statement like, "For the last week atau so, I’ve noticed this has been happening, and so I've been thinking this. How do anda see it?" oleh staying low-key, anda may help your guy to open up and recognize that talking about feelings doesn't have to feel weird.
2) OBSESSING ABOUT YOUR APPEARANCE
When a guy hears anda badmouth the way anda look, he feels trapped in a no-win situation. He knows that if he says, "Well, yeah. anda could stand to lose a few pounds," he's going to upset you. And if he says, "C'mon! anda look fine to me," you’ll think he's just saying that to make anda feel good. So why even ASK appearance-related pertanyaan in the first place? Probably because you're looking for some kind of reassurance from him. A hint that he finds anda attractive. atau that it's your inner beauty — not your outer physique — that's won him over. While there's nothing wrong with wanting a compliment, it's best not to ikan for one. Guys get tired of hearing girls ask lame, obvious pertanyaan like, "Do anda like my hair this way?" atau "Does this dress look dumb?" atau "Do anda notice anything different about me?" It makes them think that a girl's insecure, and they don't want to feel responsible for bolstering her self-image all the time.
REMEMBER JUST BECAUSE HE DOESNT mandi, shower anda WITH CONFIDENCE DONT THINK THE WORST.
3) akting LIKE A PARTY GIRL
If anda think guys notice girls who drink atau do drugs, you're right. It's hard to ignore a girl who staggers around, slurring her words, cigarette in one hand, a bir in the other. But that kind of attention probably isn’t the kind anda want to attract. "I've known some girls who act really wild because they think that's what guys like," "But the kind of girl I'm interested in is one who can have fun without getting wasted." says my cousin lee.
4)BRINGING UP YOUR EX
It's natural to compare a guy you're now dating to an old flame. In fact, such comparisons can help anda figure out what anda find appealing about someone atau help anda to avoid making the same mistake twice. But anda don't need to fill your tanggal in on your observations. So what if he and your ex wear the same cologne? What's the point in telling him that your ex was also really nervous the first time he met your dad? Such komentar only serve to confuse a guy or, worse, give him a complex. Don't believe it? Consider how tortured you'd feel if your tanggal started comparing anda to his ex!
5)CRITIQUING HIS APPEARANCE
You're just trying to be helpful, right? Like when anda point out how much better he'd look if he wore something besides those ratty sneakers. atau cut his hair like Justin Timberlake's.
anda may think you're doing a guy a favor when you're 100 percent honest with him. But remember, there's a difference between being honest and being tactful. If anda find yourself obsessing over the fact that your guy could look SO MUCH better (or make better grades, atau be lebih popular, atau whatever), consider whether it could be anda who needs to change. anda may be so hung up on your image as a couple that you've forgotten why you're a couple in the first place. If that's the case, try to stop looking at your guy through critical eyes. It'll do your jantung — and your relationship — good!
1)DO NOT OVER ANALYZE THE RELATIONSHIP
most guys freak when they hear the word relationship in the early days of dating. they think "oh no why did she have to go spoil things oleh bringing this up?!"They also often think that when a girl wants to talk about a relationship, she really means she wants to pick him apart, expose all his flaws, and make him feel like a toad. If anda really feel anda need to talk about the relationship, try a softer approach. Avoid issuing an order like, "We need to talk about us," which most guys find terrifying. Instead, try a lebih specific statement like, "For the last week atau so, I’ve noticed this has been happening, and so I've been thinking this. How do anda see it?" oleh staying low-key, anda may help your guy to open up and recognize that talking about feelings doesn't have to feel weird.
2) OBSESSING ABOUT YOUR APPEARANCE
When a guy hears anda badmouth the way anda look, he feels trapped in a no-win situation. He knows that if he says, "Well, yeah. anda could stand to lose a few pounds," he's going to upset you. And if he says, "C'mon! anda look fine to me," you’ll think he's just saying that to make anda feel good. So why even ASK appearance-related pertanyaan in the first place? Probably because you're looking for some kind of reassurance from him. A hint that he finds anda attractive. atau that it's your inner beauty — not your outer physique — that's won him over. While there's nothing wrong with wanting a compliment, it's best not to ikan for one. Guys get tired of hearing girls ask lame, obvious pertanyaan like, "Do anda like my hair this way?" atau "Does this dress look dumb?" atau "Do anda notice anything different about me?" It makes them think that a girl's insecure, and they don't want to feel responsible for bolstering her self-image all the time.
REMEMBER JUST BECAUSE HE DOESNT mandi, shower anda WITH CONFIDENCE DONT THINK THE WORST.
3) akting LIKE A PARTY GIRL
If anda think guys notice girls who drink atau do drugs, you're right. It's hard to ignore a girl who staggers around, slurring her words, cigarette in one hand, a bir in the other. But that kind of attention probably isn’t the kind anda want to attract. "I've known some girls who act really wild because they think that's what guys like," "But the kind of girl I'm interested in is one who can have fun without getting wasted." says my cousin lee.
4)BRINGING UP YOUR EX
It's natural to compare a guy you're now dating to an old flame. In fact, such comparisons can help anda figure out what anda find appealing about someone atau help anda to avoid making the same mistake twice. But anda don't need to fill your tanggal in on your observations. So what if he and your ex wear the same cologne? What's the point in telling him that your ex was also really nervous the first time he met your dad? Such komentar only serve to confuse a guy or, worse, give him a complex. Don't believe it? Consider how tortured you'd feel if your tanggal started comparing anda to his ex!
5)CRITIQUING HIS APPEARANCE
You're just trying to be helpful, right? Like when anda point out how much better he'd look if he wore something besides those ratty sneakers. atau cut his hair like Justin Timberlake's.
anda may think you're doing a guy a favor when you're 100 percent honest with him. But remember, there's a difference between being honest and being tactful. If anda find yourself obsessing over the fact that your guy could look SO MUCH better (or make better grades, atau be lebih popular, atau whatever), consider whether it could be anda who needs to change. anda may be so hung up on your image as a couple that you've forgotten why you're a couple in the first place. If that's the case, try to stop looking at your guy through critical eyes. It'll do your jantung — and your relationship — good!
