Dating Version 2.0: Modern Dating
Some of the old ways of dating could be use an upgrade. Welcome 2014 with these new and improved rules!
For most of us, the best--and usually our first--source of our dating saran is our family. We rely on the experiences and wise words of Mom, Sister, and in some cases even Grandmother, for the do's and don'ts of boys and relationships. But as years pass by, it might be time to rule out some of Mom's and Grandma's old (and old-fashioned) rules on dating and come up with reasonable guidelines that appeal to lebih modern minds.
The Old Way:
~Date only boys who belong to your lingkaran of friends.
The New Way:
~While there is some comfort in going out with guys you've known since grade school, remember that the whole point is dating is to get to know new people. The spirit of the new decade is overcoming boundaries, and a great way to take part in it is oleh dating outside your usual "type" atau group. For instance, just because you're a computer geek, it doesn't mean that anda can't go out with a cute bola basket player. All it takes is a little confident. If Troy and Gabriella from High School Musical atau Rachel and Finn from Glee were able to do it, why can't you?
The Old Way:
~Wait oleh the phone for him to call to ask anda out.
The New Way:
~The old saying, "Never call a boy first", may have been right during your grandmother's time, but with all the ways of communication available now, it seems silly not to drop him any hints that you're interested. Text him, chat him over Yahoo Messenger, leave a message on his facebook Wall, atau mention him on Twitter. anda don't have to ask him out straight up if you're not comfortable with it, but it's okay to remind him that you're around if he wants to hang out.
The Old Way:
~Ask him to pick anda up from your house.
The New Way:
~Sure, there's still some merit to having a guy tampil up at your doorstep, then drop anda off after the tanggal for a possible Hollywood-style goodnight kiss. But there's also no reason why anda can't meet him at a public place, like the restaurant where anda plan to have makan malam atau the bowling alley where anda intended to hang out. Arriving and leaving on your own saves time---and it helps anda avoid an awkward drive halaman awal if the tanggal goes sour.
The Old Way:
~Just have a makan malam and watch movie.
The New Way:
~It's not the 50's anymore---dating doesn't have to mean makan malam and movie all the time. Though it's great to share a meal and see a cool flick, there are tons of other fun activities anda can do together without spending too much like playing at the park, bowling, ice skating and many more. anda can even bring some mutual friends along to avoid any uncomfortable first-date experience moments. membungkus, bungkus up the hari (or night) at a quiet coffee toko so anda can grab a bite, talk about your adventures together, and get to know each other in peace.
The Old Way:
~Sit pretty and let him make all the decisions.
The New Way:
~The days when girls were not much lebih than decoration for the makan malam meja are long gone. Most of the guys like girls who think for themselves, and who can churn out lebih than just, "Anywhere anda want, it's up to you" in response to the question, "So, where do anda want to go?" Feel free to suggest a restaurant anda cinta atau an activity anda find interesting. Your tanggal will appreciate your sharing the pressure of decision-making and will respect anda lebih for it.
The Old Way:
~Turn away all his compliments so anda won't seem too eager atau mayabang.
The New Way:
~One of the most common compliments among guys is that girl's can't seem to take a compliment. There's no need for anda to bring yourself down atau tell him, "You're just saying that." Accept his praise with grace! Nine times out of 10, he's telling the truth and anda know it. A simple "Thank you" will tampil that you're confident and comfortable with your self---plus, he'll appreciate being thanked for noticing how nice anda look in your dress atau how much pretty anda are.
The Old Way:
~Introduce your tanggal to your parents first.
The New Way:
~While your parents' opinions definitely matter, putting your guy in the hot kursi too soon exerts unnecessary pressure on the relationship. A guy who doesn't know anda that well may not yet be ready for your Mom's loaded statements and your Dad's underhanded threats. It's best to wait for things to become serious before bringing him halaman awal to your family. It also helps anda avoid all the awkward pertanyaan when things end before they can truly begin.
The Old Way:
~Expect fireworks and romance on a one-on-one date.
The New Way:
~These days, there's a huge difference between a friendly date and a date-date. A guy won't break out the flowers, chocolates, and sweet gestures right away. Chances are, he'll call it "hanging out" and fall a few notches sort of The Perfect Gentleman In Your Head. The modern girl knows not to expect too much from a single date---and knows that chemistry and attraction can never be forced.
The Classics:
While some rules evolved overtime, there are still etched in the stone.
1.Be your self:
~Put your best foot forward, but make sure anda stay true to who anda are. Never lie to impress.
2.Be on time:
~We know anda want to be fashionably late, but keeping him waiting any longer than 15 menit is just a plain rude.
3.Wear an appropriate amount of makeup:
~It's a date, not a halloween party! Simplicity is the key.
4.Don't spend the tanggal texting, tweeting, atau Facebooking:
~Focus your attention on your tanggal and leave the social networking for later!
5.Avoid talking about other boys:
~He especially doesn't want to hear about how much anda misses your ex atau how cute atau handsome your classmate atau neighbor is.
6.Be a good listener:
~It's okay to talk about yourself, but make sure to ask him pertanyaan and listen to his stories as well.
7.Don't nag:
~He'll appreciate if anda call atau text a few days after the tanggal to thank him and say anda had fun, but don't harass him the selanjutnya week atau panic if he doesn't respond immediately.
8.Don't lead him on:
~If anda realize you're not as interested in him as anda thought, politely let him know when he asks anda out again. It may upset him at first, but he'll surely appreciate your honestly in the long run.
Some of the old ways of dating could be use an upgrade. Welcome 2014 with these new and improved rules!
For most of us, the best--and usually our first--source of our dating saran is our family. We rely on the experiences and wise words of Mom, Sister, and in some cases even Grandmother, for the do's and don'ts of boys and relationships. But as years pass by, it might be time to rule out some of Mom's and Grandma's old (and old-fashioned) rules on dating and come up with reasonable guidelines that appeal to lebih modern minds.
The Old Way:
~Date only boys who belong to your lingkaran of friends.
The New Way:
~While there is some comfort in going out with guys you've known since grade school, remember that the whole point is dating is to get to know new people. The spirit of the new decade is overcoming boundaries, and a great way to take part in it is oleh dating outside your usual "type" atau group. For instance, just because you're a computer geek, it doesn't mean that anda can't go out with a cute bola basket player. All it takes is a little confident. If Troy and Gabriella from High School Musical atau Rachel and Finn from Glee were able to do it, why can't you?
The Old Way:
~Wait oleh the phone for him to call to ask anda out.
The New Way:
~The old saying, "Never call a boy first", may have been right during your grandmother's time, but with all the ways of communication available now, it seems silly not to drop him any hints that you're interested. Text him, chat him over Yahoo Messenger, leave a message on his facebook Wall, atau mention him on Twitter. anda don't have to ask him out straight up if you're not comfortable with it, but it's okay to remind him that you're around if he wants to hang out.
The Old Way:
~Ask him to pick anda up from your house.
The New Way:
~Sure, there's still some merit to having a guy tampil up at your doorstep, then drop anda off after the tanggal for a possible Hollywood-style goodnight kiss. But there's also no reason why anda can't meet him at a public place, like the restaurant where anda plan to have makan malam atau the bowling alley where anda intended to hang out. Arriving and leaving on your own saves time---and it helps anda avoid an awkward drive halaman awal if the tanggal goes sour.
The Old Way:
~Just have a makan malam and watch movie.
The New Way:
~It's not the 50's anymore---dating doesn't have to mean makan malam and movie all the time. Though it's great to share a meal and see a cool flick, there are tons of other fun activities anda can do together without spending too much like playing at the park, bowling, ice skating and many more. anda can even bring some mutual friends along to avoid any uncomfortable first-date experience moments. membungkus, bungkus up the hari (or night) at a quiet coffee toko so anda can grab a bite, talk about your adventures together, and get to know each other in peace.
The Old Way:
~Sit pretty and let him make all the decisions.
The New Way:
~The days when girls were not much lebih than decoration for the makan malam meja are long gone. Most of the guys like girls who think for themselves, and who can churn out lebih than just, "Anywhere anda want, it's up to you" in response to the question, "So, where do anda want to go?" Feel free to suggest a restaurant anda cinta atau an activity anda find interesting. Your tanggal will appreciate your sharing the pressure of decision-making and will respect anda lebih for it.
The Old Way:
~Turn away all his compliments so anda won't seem too eager atau mayabang.
The New Way:
~One of the most common compliments among guys is that girl's can't seem to take a compliment. There's no need for anda to bring yourself down atau tell him, "You're just saying that." Accept his praise with grace! Nine times out of 10, he's telling the truth and anda know it. A simple "Thank you" will tampil that you're confident and comfortable with your self---plus, he'll appreciate being thanked for noticing how nice anda look in your dress atau how much pretty anda are.
The Old Way:
~Introduce your tanggal to your parents first.
The New Way:
~While your parents' opinions definitely matter, putting your guy in the hot kursi too soon exerts unnecessary pressure on the relationship. A guy who doesn't know anda that well may not yet be ready for your Mom's loaded statements and your Dad's underhanded threats. It's best to wait for things to become serious before bringing him halaman awal to your family. It also helps anda avoid all the awkward pertanyaan when things end before they can truly begin.
The Old Way:
~Expect fireworks and romance on a one-on-one date.
The New Way:
~These days, there's a huge difference between a friendly date and a date-date. A guy won't break out the flowers, chocolates, and sweet gestures right away. Chances are, he'll call it "hanging out" and fall a few notches sort of The Perfect Gentleman In Your Head. The modern girl knows not to expect too much from a single date---and knows that chemistry and attraction can never be forced.
The Classics:
While some rules evolved overtime, there are still etched in the stone.
1.Be your self:
~Put your best foot forward, but make sure anda stay true to who anda are. Never lie to impress.
2.Be on time:
~We know anda want to be fashionably late, but keeping him waiting any longer than 15 menit is just a plain rude.
3.Wear an appropriate amount of makeup:
~It's a date, not a halloween party! Simplicity is the key.
4.Don't spend the tanggal texting, tweeting, atau Facebooking:
~Focus your attention on your tanggal and leave the social networking for later!
5.Avoid talking about other boys:
~He especially doesn't want to hear about how much anda misses your ex atau how cute atau handsome your classmate atau neighbor is.
6.Be a good listener:
~It's okay to talk about yourself, but make sure to ask him pertanyaan and listen to his stories as well.
7.Don't nag:
~He'll appreciate if anda call atau text a few days after the tanggal to thank him and say anda had fun, but don't harass him the selanjutnya week atau panic if he doesn't respond immediately.
8.Don't lead him on:
~If anda realize you're not as interested in him as anda thought, politely let him know when he asks anda out again. It may upset him at first, but he'll surely appreciate your honestly in the long run.