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BabyBlud said:
Well i can't say much for the general public atau about other schools etc. But when i was in school the 'popular' crowd as you've named it, where mostly people who had all the new gadgets and clothes. The 'popular' girls in my school would always plaster themselves in make-up, dye their hair blonde and wear berwarna merah muda, merah muda and golddigger outfits and reebok/nike and all those named brands. It's true that they can be exceptionally mean, i myself have suffered under their tyranny. When i was in school they used to bully me because i was different. I didn't dye my hair, i wore the school uniform, i didn't go to school in trainers, i always had my work in on time and therefore i was labelled 'un-popular' because i made an effort until i got into my 3rd tahun when i though what's the point? However, even though i suffered under these people calling me names, pushing me down in the playground etc, i had a vast lingkaran of friends, some who were even friends with them. Not all populer people are mean. Anyone can be mean, in fact we all are and anyone who says they have never been mean is a liar in my eyes. A pattern i've discovered when i was in school and even now i see it when i go to work atau go shopping etc is that any person on their own are polite, will chat to you, help anda out. But as soon as they're backed up oleh their friends they get all 'hard-core' and act 'cool'. In my opinion it's not about how confident they are, it's about how they want to see themselves and how they want their friends to see them. I'm going to tell anda about a girl named Roxanne who was in the same math class as me and was 'popular'. She was beautiful, funny and always made time to come talk to me even with her friends. Her friends used to say, right in front of me, 'why are anda talking to her?' and a credit to Roxanne she always replied 'because i like her.' Roxanne was one of the populer crowd but she was extremely nice. Another girl called Katrina who was also in the same math class was popular, and she picked and bullied me relentlessly for 3 years until one hari i just snapped and beat her up. I'm not proud of that fact, in fact i look back on it now and think i could have done better, i could have walked away. But from that moment on Katrina never touched me, she never called me names and anda know why? Because she was scared of me. And that broke my heart. She didn't want to bully me which was good, but she also didn't want to be my friend. Bullies are not nice. populer atau un-popular, goth, emo, prep, chav, skater whatever the label, people are people and in every single group anda will have nice people and mean people. anda just have to find them and make an effort to get them to know anda better.
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