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In my experience parental love always goes even further than the stereotype.
You don't have to be blood-related (or even adoption-related) to share bonds like that. At least, I don't believe so. So in that sense, I don't think cases of child-abuse apply. It's not about the DNA or legal relationship; it's about the people in it and the way they care for each other.
That might just be me though. I dunno. It's late. I'm probably not making any sense at all... xD
Parental (and, conversely, filial) love is as strong a bond as any love, and it's not restricted to blood relatives. The mentor/mentee relationship can be similar, as can the bond between adoptive parents and their children.
As for parental self-interest in their child's love, I never experienced any pressure to be someone I wasn't. This extended into every aspect of my life. I was raised without strong religion, but they humored my spiritual whims and took me to a variety of Christian services when I asked to go and accompanied me to Bar/Bat Mitzfas and Iftars. In college, I majored in drama and English, two areas of study that parents might frown upon due to the fact that careers in those fields are unstable. Afterwards, they helped me pay for graduate school for teaching, another pay-nothing career, and supported me all the way. My brother dropped out of college for a while, but when he went back, it was because he wanted to - not my parents.
They are the first people in the world that you meet - how can that not have a lasting effect on you? When that bond is damaged or severed (due to abuse or abduction), that just makes it all the more important to cherish, and all the more tragic when that love is lost.
Additionally, every relationship has the potential for abuse, including friendships. There's also spousal abuse and abuse of significant others. Basically, there will always be cases of abuse in any supposedly-loving relationship. That only makes real love all the more valuable when you see it.
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That's the best gift any parent can give to his/her child.
Would you say this is accurate?
If it is, I think we're talking about two completely different subjects.
However, parenting philosophies are diverse. The bond between parent and child can be just as strong when that parent gives that child chores and does not shelter the child or bail the child out of difficult situations as it is when a parent coddles the child. No one method of parenting shows more or less love than another, necessarily. They are just different parenting styles.
Parental love isn't overrated, but there isn't only one definition for parental love, either.
There are some moments where I wish my parents would be honest with what I do in life. But instead they say, "I love what you do no matter what." Parents should be loving and. BUT they can be both, so that's why I chose "no." Parents love their children for a reason. They love what they've done with their child and how they turned out. That is not fake, and it's not overrated because, to my opinion, things that are real are not overrated. (I have more to say, but my train of thought has left for a while. *sighs* I'll get back to this later...)
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