Nowadays, there are emo(emotional) people everywhere, and most of the "emo" people come from schools. So, this is like an emotional test for you. xD
I got this from Oprah btw. >.<
What's Your Emotional Style?Most people can identify with at least one of these emotional styles. Read each of the following groups of questions, and then begin to discover your own emotional style:
1.
Did anda have a loss early in life that makes anda fear losing people? Do anda cling to people atau push them away because you're afraid of losing them? In relationships, are anda so obsessed with the fear you'll be left, that anda push people away?
Your emotional style could be Abandonment.
Abandonment
The ongoing fear that people will leave is at the root of this emotional style. These people may fear that if they rock the perahu in the smallest way, the ones they cinta will leave. Or, they may adapt oleh running away from a relationship before they can be hurt.
If this emotional style applies to you, it's important to learn that anda won't fall apart if someone leaves you. Be aware of the fear that any kind of abandonment stirs up — hypersensitivity to separation, dread of being isolated. Mindfulness can help track this emotional style and prevent it from ruling your life.
2.
Do anda find yourself irritated when someone keeps anda from doing what anda want?
Do anda feel that anda are somehow special, and the rules don't apply to you?
Your emotional style could be Entitlement.
Entitlement
People with this emotional style feel that rules don't apply to them. They may have been spoiled as a child, atau the cinta they received was based on a certain quality — looks, academics, athletic skills. These people often exaggerate their prowess, usually to hide a feeling of inadequacy, atau feel they are entitled to lebih than their fair share of compensation. They also display a lack of self-discipline, and the inability to delay gratification.
If your emotional style is entitlement, try to be aware of the negative impact your actions have on the people around you. Mindfulness can help anda learn to catch yourself before anda overstep appropriate limits, and connect with your deeper feelings so anda can deal with them directly.
3.
Are anda drawn to people who control anda atau make decisions for you?
Do anda feel guilty about having needs atau wants of your own?
Do anda feel resentful when your needs atau wishes aren't considered?
Your emotional style could be Subjugation.
Subjugation
This emotional style revolves around the feeling that your own needs never take priority in an intimate relationship. These people give in easily, but their hidden resentment can smolder into anger and rage. Some will overreact at the least sign of being controlled, while others are unable to make even a simple commitment.
If this describes you, get in touch with your resentment, so that anda can begin to assert your wishes and needs effectively. Being mindful will help anda track your automatic reactions — the anger atau thoughts that are primed oleh the fear that anda will be controlled.
4.
When anda were young, were anda made to feel that anda didn't belong in some way?
Do anda tend to feel like an outsider in a group?
Are anda shy and self-conscious in social situations?
Your emotional style could be Exclusion.
Exclusion
Finding yourself on the outside of things often leads to this emotional style. The perceived message is, "You're not like us." This feeling typically causes a person to stay on the edge of the action, reinforcing the feeling of exclusion. This may lead avoidance of groups in adulthood, atau conversely, cause someone to revel in their outcast role.
If anda feel excluded, learn to feel and challenge your fears oleh making efforts to initiate conversations, and learning to master your anxiety. Mindfulness will help anda step back from thoughts that make anda uncomfortable.
5.
Do anda feel people can't be trusted?
As a child, were anda treated unfairly atau abused?
Do anda feel that people anda are close to will betray your trust?
Your emotional style could be Mistrust.
Mistrust
Suspiciousness and a quick temper are typical of this emotional style. Often the mistrust stems from having been physically, sexually, atau emotionally abused. People of this style tend to gravitate to relationships in which their worst fears are confirmed, getting involved with people who treat them badly.
If this describes you, anda may want to work with a therapist specializing in clients who have been abused. Treatment may involve revisiting your memories and expressing your anger, which is an essential emotional step. Mindfulness can help anda become aware of your tendency to assume betrayal, and help anda challenge those thoughts
6.
As a child, were anda put down atau made to feel inept?
Do anda fear anda won't succeed at anything, no matter how hard anda try?
Do anda feel that anda don't deserve the success you've had?
Your emotional style could be Failure.
Failure
A typical feeling in this emotional style is being deficient despite one's accomplishments. This can lead people to push themselves extremely hard, despite the constant fear of failure. Some fall prey to the imposter phenomenon — anda succeed, but secretly feel you're a fraud and will be found out. Others discover that believing they will fail becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
If anda see yourself in this emotional style, learn to lebih accurately assess your talents and abilities, as well as accept that your accomplishments are truly deserved. Being mindful will help anda identify and challenge your internal negative thoughts.
7.
Do anda feel that if people knew the "real" you, they would see that you're flawed?
Do anda feel a sense of shame that keeps anda from letting people get close?
Are anda drawn to people who are critical and rejecting of you?
Your emotional style could be Unlovability.
Unlovability
The automatic assumption that "I'm not lovable" typifies this emotional style. Shame and humiliation, along with a feeling of being flawed, are this style's prominent emotions. Two patterns are seen in people who feel unlovable. Some give in to their deep feeling of unworthiness, while others hide behind arrogance, seeking public recognition and adulation.
People with this emotional style may find it hard to be genuine in a relationship. One thing anda can do is challenge the thoughts that amplify your flaws. Mindfulness will help anda learn to feel confident that those close to anda know and cinta anda as anda are, and anda will begin to heal.
8.
Do anda hold yourself to the highest standards, but feel it's never good enough?
When anda were young, were anda made to feel anda could always do better, no matter what anda accomplished?
Do your relationships atau health suffer because anda push yourself too hard?
Your emotional style could be Perfectionism.
Perfectionism
People with this emotional style unrelentingly hold themselves to the highest standards. No matter how well they do, it's never good enough, so they drive themselves until the rest of their life suffers. This emotional style drives people to push themselves in sports, at school, in physical appearance, atau for social status.
If this emotional style applies to you, realize that lowering your standards will be a relief. anda will have time and energy to have your other needs met, including the need for downtime. Being mindful will help anda examine and challenge the self-criticism.
9.
Do anda often feel that people don't really care about your needs atau tune into your feelings?
Do anda often find yourself in a caretaker role with others?
Are anda drawn to relationships with people who are cold, atau self-absorbed?
Your emotional style could be Deprivation.
Deprivation
At the jantung of this emotional style is the belief, "My needs won't be met." No matter how much is diberikan to people of this style, it never feels like enough. Some people overindulge in an attempt to nurture themselves, while others become the caretaker they never had, and may gravitate to careers in which they help others, like social work atau nursing.
If your emotional style is deprivation, examine how your need to be nurtured affects your relationships. anda should become aware of a tendency to distort your interpretation of the actions of others. People might enjoy your company without wanting anything more. Mindfulness will help anda begin to communicate your needs lebih clearly, and to seek lebih emotionally available partners.
10.
Do anda often have the fear that something bad will happen to anda atau a loved one?
Do your fears keep anda from doing things that anda would like?
Are anda overly preoccupied with worries about health atau finances?
Your emotional style could be Vulnerability.
Vulnerability
The key element of this emotional style is an exaggerated fear that something terrible is about to happen. This can lead to thriftiness to the point of denying yourself pleasure, atau embracing some health fad to ward of disease. At its extreme, it takes the form of a phobia, like fear of flying. Some people react oleh constantly seeking reassurance, while others overcompensate oleh taking risks.
People with this emotional style can win emotional freedom oleh mindfully monitoring their thoughts, rather than letting them dictate their behavior. Meditation can also help calm your mind
I got this from Oprah btw. >.<
What's Your Emotional Style?Most people can identify with at least one of these emotional styles. Read each of the following groups of questions, and then begin to discover your own emotional style:
1.
Did anda have a loss early in life that makes anda fear losing people? Do anda cling to people atau push them away because you're afraid of losing them? In relationships, are anda so obsessed with the fear you'll be left, that anda push people away?
Your emotional style could be Abandonment.
Abandonment
The ongoing fear that people will leave is at the root of this emotional style. These people may fear that if they rock the perahu in the smallest way, the ones they cinta will leave. Or, they may adapt oleh running away from a relationship before they can be hurt.
If this emotional style applies to you, it's important to learn that anda won't fall apart if someone leaves you. Be aware of the fear that any kind of abandonment stirs up — hypersensitivity to separation, dread of being isolated. Mindfulness can help track this emotional style and prevent it from ruling your life.
2.
Do anda find yourself irritated when someone keeps anda from doing what anda want?
Do anda feel that anda are somehow special, and the rules don't apply to you?
Your emotional style could be Entitlement.
Entitlement
People with this emotional style feel that rules don't apply to them. They may have been spoiled as a child, atau the cinta they received was based on a certain quality — looks, academics, athletic skills. These people often exaggerate their prowess, usually to hide a feeling of inadequacy, atau feel they are entitled to lebih than their fair share of compensation. They also display a lack of self-discipline, and the inability to delay gratification.
If your emotional style is entitlement, try to be aware of the negative impact your actions have on the people around you. Mindfulness can help anda learn to catch yourself before anda overstep appropriate limits, and connect with your deeper feelings so anda can deal with them directly.
3.
Are anda drawn to people who control anda atau make decisions for you?
Do anda feel guilty about having needs atau wants of your own?
Do anda feel resentful when your needs atau wishes aren't considered?
Your emotional style could be Subjugation.
Subjugation
This emotional style revolves around the feeling that your own needs never take priority in an intimate relationship. These people give in easily, but their hidden resentment can smolder into anger and rage. Some will overreact at the least sign of being controlled, while others are unable to make even a simple commitment.
If this describes you, get in touch with your resentment, so that anda can begin to assert your wishes and needs effectively. Being mindful will help anda track your automatic reactions — the anger atau thoughts that are primed oleh the fear that anda will be controlled.
4.
When anda were young, were anda made to feel that anda didn't belong in some way?
Do anda tend to feel like an outsider in a group?
Are anda shy and self-conscious in social situations?
Your emotional style could be Exclusion.
Exclusion
Finding yourself on the outside of things often leads to this emotional style. The perceived message is, "You're not like us." This feeling typically causes a person to stay on the edge of the action, reinforcing the feeling of exclusion. This may lead avoidance of groups in adulthood, atau conversely, cause someone to revel in their outcast role.
If anda feel excluded, learn to feel and challenge your fears oleh making efforts to initiate conversations, and learning to master your anxiety. Mindfulness will help anda step back from thoughts that make anda uncomfortable.
5.
Do anda feel people can't be trusted?
As a child, were anda treated unfairly atau abused?
Do anda feel that people anda are close to will betray your trust?
Your emotional style could be Mistrust.
Mistrust
Suspiciousness and a quick temper are typical of this emotional style. Often the mistrust stems from having been physically, sexually, atau emotionally abused. People of this style tend to gravitate to relationships in which their worst fears are confirmed, getting involved with people who treat them badly.
If this describes you, anda may want to work with a therapist specializing in clients who have been abused. Treatment may involve revisiting your memories and expressing your anger, which is an essential emotional step. Mindfulness can help anda become aware of your tendency to assume betrayal, and help anda challenge those thoughts
6.
As a child, were anda put down atau made to feel inept?
Do anda fear anda won't succeed at anything, no matter how hard anda try?
Do anda feel that anda don't deserve the success you've had?
Your emotional style could be Failure.
Failure
A typical feeling in this emotional style is being deficient despite one's accomplishments. This can lead people to push themselves extremely hard, despite the constant fear of failure. Some fall prey to the imposter phenomenon — anda succeed, but secretly feel you're a fraud and will be found out. Others discover that believing they will fail becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
If anda see yourself in this emotional style, learn to lebih accurately assess your talents and abilities, as well as accept that your accomplishments are truly deserved. Being mindful will help anda identify and challenge your internal negative thoughts.
7.
Do anda feel that if people knew the "real" you, they would see that you're flawed?
Do anda feel a sense of shame that keeps anda from letting people get close?
Are anda drawn to people who are critical and rejecting of you?
Your emotional style could be Unlovability.
Unlovability
The automatic assumption that "I'm not lovable" typifies this emotional style. Shame and humiliation, along with a feeling of being flawed, are this style's prominent emotions. Two patterns are seen in people who feel unlovable. Some give in to their deep feeling of unworthiness, while others hide behind arrogance, seeking public recognition and adulation.
People with this emotional style may find it hard to be genuine in a relationship. One thing anda can do is challenge the thoughts that amplify your flaws. Mindfulness will help anda learn to feel confident that those close to anda know and cinta anda as anda are, and anda will begin to heal.
8.
Do anda hold yourself to the highest standards, but feel it's never good enough?
When anda were young, were anda made to feel anda could always do better, no matter what anda accomplished?
Do your relationships atau health suffer because anda push yourself too hard?
Your emotional style could be Perfectionism.
Perfectionism
People with this emotional style unrelentingly hold themselves to the highest standards. No matter how well they do, it's never good enough, so they drive themselves until the rest of their life suffers. This emotional style drives people to push themselves in sports, at school, in physical appearance, atau for social status.
If this emotional style applies to you, realize that lowering your standards will be a relief. anda will have time and energy to have your other needs met, including the need for downtime. Being mindful will help anda examine and challenge the self-criticism.
9.
Do anda often feel that people don't really care about your needs atau tune into your feelings?
Do anda often find yourself in a caretaker role with others?
Are anda drawn to relationships with people who are cold, atau self-absorbed?
Your emotional style could be Deprivation.
Deprivation
At the jantung of this emotional style is the belief, "My needs won't be met." No matter how much is diberikan to people of this style, it never feels like enough. Some people overindulge in an attempt to nurture themselves, while others become the caretaker they never had, and may gravitate to careers in which they help others, like social work atau nursing.
If your emotional style is deprivation, examine how your need to be nurtured affects your relationships. anda should become aware of a tendency to distort your interpretation of the actions of others. People might enjoy your company without wanting anything more. Mindfulness will help anda begin to communicate your needs lebih clearly, and to seek lebih emotionally available partners.
10.
Do anda often have the fear that something bad will happen to anda atau a loved one?
Do your fears keep anda from doing things that anda would like?
Are anda overly preoccupied with worries about health atau finances?
Your emotional style could be Vulnerability.
Vulnerability
The key element of this emotional style is an exaggerated fear that something terrible is about to happen. This can lead to thriftiness to the point of denying yourself pleasure, atau embracing some health fad to ward of disease. At its extreme, it takes the form of a phobia, like fear of flying. Some people react oleh constantly seeking reassurance, while others overcompensate oleh taking risks.
People with this emotional style can win emotional freedom oleh mindfully monitoring their thoughts, rather than letting them dictate their behavior. Meditation can also help calm your mind