Do boys atau girls usualy like to be in controll

That depends on the individual person. Some women like to be in control and some men like to be in control. anda just have to find the role that suits both your partner and yourself.

For me it is "man" vs. "woman"

Are we -speaking in tempat tidur atau romantically atau in general?

I like a man to be in control, to be lebih dominate & be the aggressor (in bed)... but I am often labeled the Dom, if they like that, and we can vye atau take turns and we find it in very amiable ways, so I have no prob taking turns and they seem to like & appreciate that too. They LIKE the chance to be dominate with me & they like to let me, so it works out. (It is really lebih a sexual game...in truth our cinta & love-making would be "mutually shared w/no one "in control")..but I like someone who is "able."
Romantically speaking I think it is give and take, but I like the guy to buy makan malam & stuff to tampil he cares, though there are many ways he can that cost nothing (and Iwill go pay too sometmes atau go dutch when I see that he treats me well- I return it, and not always monetarily, but I am not high maintenience either.)

In general I think it is BOTH.

Women want the power of choice-simple, we want to be able to choose whatever we want. Men usually do not care unless a female (in the hetro senses) gets TOO overbearing & most do NOT like that!

Control in any relationship is an illusion really and actually NOT a good thing to seek atau hand over.