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My parents compare me to my cousin all the time on the basis of grades.What do I do?

My cousin is this really studious perfect son that every parent could dream of.And my aunt gloats all over about his academic achievements and certificates.And my mom,on hearing all this gets upset with me and starts criticising me and says I should be lebih like him in every way,just beacause he has good grades.Evevthough,I get okay grades they dont seem to be happy beacuse his grades are much better than mine.Even if,Im better than him at art,music,literature,painting amd menulis and those kind of things,they dont seem to care.Im so sad,what should I do?
 graystone posted lebih dari setahun yang lalu
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Chaann94 said:
Tell your parents about how anda feel. But don't blame them for anything, parents are allergic to that! Say something like; "I always want to be lebih like <insert name of cousin> because I'm afraid anda won't cinta me if I'm not". That'll make them think and anda didn't do anything wrong! ;)

Plus, you're better in art, music, writing, etc. So do something with it!

Write some musik atau paint something atau write an awesome story so your mom will brag about anda with your aunt! ;).

Hope I could help! Take care!
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sweetangel222 said:
that's always happen to me ,don't listen to your parents , put an aim and go for ,make a plan ,believe in yourself ,you can be lebih excellent than him/her
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alisonfaith297 said:
i have the exact same problem the only difference is taht all my sousins are amarter than me.. i have 2 other cousins who are in the same garde as me and they are all really talented and really same. where i come from which is like a asian family. our parents have really high expectations. so if anda are like the runt in my family. bad luck for you.

anyways. to answer your question. in my experience. try your best to ignore it. trust me its not gonna be easy. anda are gonna feel at some point anda cant take it and just wanna kill urself (figuratively) every grade if not an A atau full marks anda get back anda are gonna feel like anda have been a failure. so anda if anda are like me who cant accept such thing easily, anda push and push. and eventually, it too much. i was like literally sleep deprived for months. many times, i would just wanna collapse but i did my best. trying telling yourself, if u did ur best, it was good.
dont beat yourself up too much about it. it just gonna eat at you. i'm myself am still struggling with this everyday. the want and the need for perfection. but it helps to talk to someone about it. to just vent your anger at a very good friend. also i understand that the need to the moment anda get your grades to compare to others and all this comparison within ur peers is not helping. if anda just wanna find out how much they scored. just to get like an estimate whether it was just anda atau the test was really hard, then should but just within a few friends. dont try to compete with others, compete with yourself. it is your goal that anda wanna beat not others. so disregard what grades your cousin atau peers are getting. focus on YOU! it only matters if anda did not reach the standard anda expected to reach. of course, dont go setting ridiculous standard that anda know anda cannot reach instead set realistic ones. it will help your grades improve.

as for your parents, i understand anda are from india and i know what it is like there. i go to an international school so i now the pressure anda guys have from your parents, garnted it may not be as much as how much my parents give me. but i get the general i dea. anda parents, will never stop comparing anda grades with others. in my 15 (techinically my birthday has not reach.. hehe) years of life, my parents have not stop comparing me to my cousins and even my friends. she made friends with some of my friends mom and compared grades. most of them, i consider smarter then me. either ways, i have notice that arts dont compare to academics, academics is always most important. if anda can try to build a better relationship with your parents. like do anda share a common interest with your mum atau dad. talk to them about it, soon they will get to know anda better and see what else u have to offer. and they might be lebih accepting and tell your aunts and uncles atau " so what if your son/daughter is really smart at academics, my daughter can play the daughter can play the piano as well as bethoven (hyperbo
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thanks,ill try:)
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EmzLovesCheryl said:
Hey, believe in yourself.

Your mum has no reason to be upset with you. Talk to her about how you're feeling, she should understand. Make sure she takes notice when anda do something well. For instance, your art, music, literature, painting and writing. Your mum should be gloating about your talents. You're the kind of artistic, creative person that will always have far lebih job opportunities than someone who is totally based academically. As long as your grades are ok and anda pass your exams (no matter if it's a C atau an A, as long as you've passed them) then anda will, honestly.

Don't let it get to you, just hold your head up high and know remember that you're you no one else. And anda don't need to be.

Chin up, and focus on your talents, don't worry about your cousin. And also, I may only be a teenager, but if I had a kid, I would far prefer him/her to be good at the things that you're good at. I'm just saying that, grades aren't all a person wishes for in their kid.

Keep smiling!

=)
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thanks!i feel better:)
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puja43 said:
Just get over it and shrug off this matter. Dont blame ur mum 4 this. Just explain it to her calmly that how u feel and how u think u r different and should not be judged to ur cousin. let her know that u cant be like him completely. he's different u r different. then she will understand this matter. And most importantly, dont be depressed about this. it also happens to me. i dont take it too seriously. and know that anda r not going to be like him.
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sdfghh78 said:
me too my mom and my older sister is always comparing me to my cousin because she is thin and she always gets good grades and play with her little siblings and always listen to her mom and i do listen to my mom but play musik and sing and im not fat im 70 pounds and i look good but they want me to be like a straw and they always take my phone and i hate them for doing that
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