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Can someone please help me? I think I'm bisexual, but I don't know.....

posted by sapherequeen

*sighs* So..lately, I'm starting to think atau maybe realize that I am bisexual; I'm attracted oleh both boys and girls.

After thinking about it, there have been signs of this since I was at a young age, like around five years of age, but I never put these clues together until now....

Well...like I said, it all started at five. For some strange reason, a lot of the little kids in my kindergarten class already started having crushes on one another. There were little girls telling each other so-and-so likes anda and giggling about it, and there were boys who basically did the same thing. I can even remember a girl and a boy calling them boyfriend and girlfriend already. *sighs* And then there was me. I never felt anything like a crush towards a boy. If a boy ended up liking me, I'd pretend to like him back, but I really wasn't interested in him (I didn't want to be the only girl who didn't have a boyfriend, anda know..kid-stuff).

I guess that's not a really good reason, considering five-year-olds are maybe too young to feel things like that.

But the thing that struck me was that I never had a crush on a boy until I was ten and in the fourth grade. I liked this one very gorgeous guy who I was friends with, and I mean liked. But, it didn't last (I don't really want to get into what happened...).

But around that same time, I also liked an actress, Emily Browning. I always thought she was so beautiful and really liked her. I seemed like an ordinary fan of an actress. But even though I was only ten, I began to realize that I perhaps didn't just like Emily. I may have had a small crush on her.
I stopped liking her after I met my friend who I liked.

Well, after my two crushes I basically lived on without having any..special interest in someone. But I definitely may have experienced lebih signs from ages eleven to almost fourteen.

I did notice that some boys I knew were very gorgeous, and almost got to the point where I liked them. But at the same time, I noticed the attractiveness of some girls as well, I basically saw what maybe a boy would see; if she had great breasts, great butts, if she had a cute face atau smile...well, anda know what I mean.

I now (I'm in the ninth grade) think I'm starting to form a crush on a girl right now, if I hadn't so already. I think she's very beautiful and...strangely, I wish I could give her a hug (just a hug, though).

*sighs* I'm really confused. I definitely become attracted oleh boys and girls, but boys a little bit more. It may be something else, I'm not really sure. But...well, I just don't know...

But knowing whehter I'm bisexual atau not isn't my only problem.

I fully accept homosexual people and I actually really like things about them; how confident they are, how generous and sweet they can be, and their senses of humor. :)

But...I don't know how to say this without offending someone..but when I picture myself as homosexual atau bisexual, it just...it scares me. No not scare, it just really worries me.

I wouldn't know how to handle a discovery that big about myself, and with the people in my life right now, my being bisexual would just make things a hell lot worse with them, too. :(

But right now, I just want to focus on whether I am bisexual atau not bisexual.

Please, if anyone knows what I'm experiencing and can explain things to me, please comment. :(

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thespikedturtle When you're a teenager, you shouldn't be trying to figure it out. Actually, you should never try to figure it out, eventually the truth will be clear. But whether you are or not doesn't make a difference, you're still the same old you! I'm in the same basic boat as you, I'm starting to think I am bi. Although I don't have crushes on other guys and I don't really give man hugs, I feel I'm too straight to be gay, and I think I'm too gay to be straight... As for being accepting towards gays and bi's, that could ust be that you're a nicer person than most. That's definitely nothing to be afraid of! But if you need to talk about something, I'm here.

sCeNeGiRl1228 Well maybe you just admire some certain girls.. Like Emily Browning, maybe you just admired her beauty.. Theres nothing wrong for having a celeberty the same gender as your role model.. Im straight, but my friend had the same problem she likes my teacher acually but she didnt know what she was. Plus your young,so you have plenty of time to decide.. If you think your bi, your bi.. Dont be afraid of what people think of you.. Hope this helped..

XxmgirlxX496 well it's ok to have a crush on a girl i have one on Selena Gomez

tweetymom65 Well it really dosnt matter if your bi or not. You don't choose to be bi/gay/lesbian/homosexual. It naturally happens. Your not alone lots of other people are having the same problem. A girl once in first grade tried to make me bi by making me kiss her and make out with her but it didn't happen. Stephanie told me the advice of you don't choose to be bi/gay/lesbian/homosexual. Let your heart lead the way to what you are. Your still a teenager finding your way to finding the real you. Like everyone is finding their real selves. All I know is I'm straight.

yellow-shorty WOW.... I have a friend..or 2 friends that are bi...when the first one turned it was kind oflike wow then both of my friends start going out. Its weird when there bo-h together but when there seperate there the same people ....most bi, or homo people are the best friends you can have so if your feeling some kind ofnway justgo with it ..........It will be okay

Coolchill NO... Don't be discouraged... Do you actually realise something? Of all the ages you said that you started forming crushes and some sort, you ARE at the age of puberty. So there's nothing to worry about. It happens all because of yr bodily changes and it's normal. The effect of bodily changes varies. So it's perfectly normal. CHEER UP!

zaptrollwen Most people your age go through opposite and same-sex crushes. I guess i'm roughly the same age as you, give or take a few years, and i've just gone through a very similar experience. From what I can tell you are probably bi/lesbian. This isn't something to be ashamed of. Even if it later turns out to just be a phase it's still something everyone goes through at your age. If you decide to come out people will most likely be supportive, if not then they are not worth being around. Hang in there. If you need any more advice on the subject feel free to message me at any time.

princess19121 Allthough i am not bi i think it does not matter if you like a gril it your personality just nos whats right for you Its your live

snapes-lover try kissing a girl and try kissing a boy and see which one you like more.if you like kissing the boy your straight.if you like kissing the girl your lez and if you like both your bi. hope it helps

zomeister I had the same problem, a few months back, when I started waking up to orgasmic dreams about a really good friend of mine. A girl. It tortured me, knowing that I've kissed girls and that I've liked it. But I thought I liked it because it was fun. But no. I am attracted to girls. Maybe more to boys, but the girls are still in my head. I thought about it and questioned myself, and only came to one conclusion: who the fuck cares? Seriously, it's okay to be attracted to any sex. I admit I'm bi, because it's amazing. You have twice more options for dating! Maybe it's just a phase, because maybe sometimes you feel it fading away, but even if it's permanent, it's fine! It's awesome! Just accept yourself the way you are, no matter the changes in your heart.

DramaQueen1020 snapes-lover, it would kinda depend on who the people are and how good kissers they are, no? But yeah, I'm kinda the same. (this was written 2 years ago, but I'm in 9th grade too) I'm mostly attracted to guys, but some girls are just..... :) IDK. I've never kissed anyone, I want to find out if I like it. Guy or girl.

jellyfish_ocean You know, it really isn't a big deal. Everyone is different and I can see why u r scared. But, really, who the fudge cares?

Rainshadow999 It's normal to feel like that. Just ignore your fear and get on with life…not saying that in a harsh way but honestly, once you find "the one", you'll have way more confidence. Accepting something about yourself can be really hard but usually if you do accept it, you don't really have to do anything about it. You know discovering your sexuality is sort of like homework, put it off to the last minute! Lol, seriously though, you don't have to worry about this until you really have fallen in love with someone and even then everything becomes less complicated. Oh, and don't worry about the hugs, everyone likes hugs right?

Rainshadow999 What am I on? 2 months ago…ignore me!

mynameizkiley Well it's normal and I'm bisexual and how did I figure that out?well,I just felt attracted to my opposite and non-opposite sex.so if you feel the same way,go ahead and say that you are bi.no body is going to have a problem with that,they are not gods people,because God made you this way and they are not acceptable.but,anyways you go ahead and do your thing no body is going to stop you from being you.

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Thunderhorse007 Pick up a Bible, and read it a while. The answer will come to you.

taini in the end it doesn't matter. you might be or you might not be. it doesn't change who you are. you are still you just...have other likings. im straight but I can tell you right now that if you are bi it doesn't matter. I have a friend that's bi, he went thru what you more or less went thru. going thru that stage doesn't necessarily mean you're bi it just means that you're confused. maybe you just think your gender or other genders look good. doesn't necessarily mean you're bi but so what if you are? people think it is a sin but hey! god created everything in this world. im sure he created this too because he wanted to see how we would react. i'm sorry if you don't belong to a religion like that. if you are bi then embrace it knowing that you will have people that will be by your side. I'm a stranger sure but hey im on your side. if you are straight and this is just a confusing stage for you then hey im still on your side. if you want advice from someone who is bi, gay, lesbian or etc then check out the I think it's the marriage equality group or gay rights. you can talk to some of them on there. they can give you advice. if you don't feel alright with talking to strangers then talk to someone trust worthy. maybe im not the best person to talk to since I never went thru that but know that you have me. I fully support people liking their genders and other genders.

LGYCE Homosexuality is wrong in many, many ways, and if anyone wants to argue that point with me, I am always up for a good debate. As for your bisexuality, I think that you probably are bisexual, but if the idea of being with another girl scares you, then be with a guy. While I disagree with same-sex relationships, the government doesn't (depending on where you live), so it's really your choice. But men and women are naturally meant to be together, so that would be the best option in my opinion. It is your life however, so do what you want.

silencewilltrip I know this was posted over a year ago, but I'm having the same problem... :/ For basically my whole life I've known I like boys, but I just started high school and I'm starting to question my sexuality. My school has over 2,000 students so there are lots of cute guys and girls everywhere and it's so confusing :( My mom is in a domestic partnership and I live with her and my step mom so I know they would be supportive if I told them, but it still scares me to death for some reason... Like it feels weird to tell my lesbian mom that I might be bi... I think you should see what happens because you're a teenager (like me) and you still need to figure out who you are and stuff... I don't know if anyone will read this cause this post is kind of old, but I just needed to say this to someone even if no one is listening.

fandomfan I'm having a similar issue. I don't have any particular girl/guy I like, but I cannot figure out if I'm jealous of beautiful girls or if I'm attracted to them. I don't really feel any different about guys or girls... I think I'm asexual/bisexual? When I was little I had crushes on guys, but I didn't actually like any of them, I was just going with the thing where girls like guys so I thought I had to like a guy... then I creeped on all the guys in my grade and realized I was a weirdo lol

the-awesome-6 I totally get you. I mean, I have the same problem. Not to mention that while I am pretty sure I'm bi, my family doesn't acccept GLBT people. And since I am one, I can say that we ARE NORMAL PEOPLE and I wish more people got that.

pablo23 Idk if I an or not it's hard for me to tell(because of things i have done). I have been trying to fined out if i still am or if i ever was bi. I think it was/is just a phase I'm going through or am. I think it's just that I notic and exepte that they are good looking but at the same time I think I really like them. I just went with let things be and time will tell but I feel like i have to know now. Is there some evidence you can give me anyone. I go to church but i don't judge people for who they are and what their intersects are i support LGBT people fully

bisexualfreak I have like the same story as you, but I am in grade 7. It was all very confusing, but luckily I have a few friends that will help me through the thick and thin. I hope you have friends like that💚💙💜. Bisexualfreak Xoxo

Operavoce20 Don't worry about it. I am 26 and just found out I am bi after more than a decade of questioning when I found the right lady. You will know when you meet someone that's right for you. I think I know what you're saying about being scared, when you're talking to a gal, it's nerve-wracking if she judges your attraction to her (if u are). High school is a rough time with a lot of judgmental people I say just don't question it and you will find out eventually. Good luck!